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Happy people cope better with boring, demeaning or stultifying jobs. They make even boring jobs look interesting. They have fun. They learn. They develop their mind and their skills. They also find the nearest exit as soon as possible. Unhappy people get stuck in a rut and switch off. They might go through the motions and turn in acceptable degree of work but the essential spark is missing. They never excel. They can never escape. They are stuck like a needle in a groove. Not going backwards, forwards or sideways. By Fareeha Qayoom

By Fareeha Qayoom

 

W

e spend most of our lives working. There is no choice involved. Most adults have to work. The lucky ones get paid. The unlucky ones don’t. (For example, parenting is one of the hardest jobs in the world – you never get paid even if you signed up voluntarily. Majority of us have to do it no matter what, 24/7, 365 days a year! There is no time off for good behavior. Funnily enough, there is no right way to do it. You are always wrong in retrospect and in your kids’ eyes!).

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There are apparently three kinds of jobs according to experts–

 

  • Jobs that involve your passion – in other words, they are a virtual labor of love, you would do them even if you never got paid a dime (hobbies come in this category);

 

  • Jobs that offer you a degree of autonomy, variety, learning and a challenge, not to mention status and money and a chance to move up and forward as your skills develop,  and

 

  • Moribund or Dead end jobs.

 

Unfortunately, most jobs are dead end jobs. There is no escape, there is no end and you don’t even get paid or appreciated. There is no career corporate ladder to climb…for example, if you are a mom, you will always remain a mom. You don’t start from frontline mom to middle manager mom to senior manager mom to suddenly end up as CEO mom. You are thrown in at the deep end from day one and you remain there till you die. Also, Peter Principle applies. You are stuck at your current level of incompetence. Same goes for your other major roles in life – sibling, spouse, parent, relative, friend, Co-worker, business associate, professional…this is all very subjective and you can never win.

 

You can choose your spouse (in some countries) and friends; however, you can’t choose your parents or siblings or indeed your relatives. Mostly, you don’t even get to choose your career/job. It chooses you. In other words, there is no such thing as personal freedom (of choice). It’s a delusion.

 

So what can you do? You can choose your attitude. Happy people cope better with boring, demeaning or stultifying jobs. They make even boring jobs look interesting. They have fun. They learn. They develop their mind and their skills. They also find the nearest exit as soon as possible. Unhappy people get stuck in a rut and switch off. They might go through the motions and turn in acceptable degree of work but the essential spark is missing. They never excel. They can never escape. They are stuck like a needle in a groove. Not going backwards, forwards or sideways.

 

In case you are wondering why I felt compelled to hold forth on this subject…well, a colleague of mine was complaining the other day in an idle moment about the general nature of jobs available, our material world and the family values being currently taught at private schools, not to mention, inflation and high school fees and the lifestyle that’s being demanded by the current crop of kids because of these so called posh private schools’ expectations…his conclusion: life is tough – what makes it bearable?- Having a sense of humor.

 

I couldn’t agree more. Our attitude makes all the difference. ■

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Fareeha Qayoom
Fareeha Qayoom
The publisher and editor-in-chief for Tkfr.com and former print editions of The Knit-Xtyle Fashion Review (tkfr), Fareeha is currently working at a media company as Content development Manager (or as they call it, the managing editor); she also served as the managing editor for Valuemag (Jan 08-July 09 – Print editions Valuemag 1-13). She has over 15 years of solid management experience in managing products, brands, projects, processes, staff, customers, vendors and time, plus, she has a MSc degree in Economics (and Business Administration) from La Salle University, Louisiana, USA and BA from Kinnaird. She also freelanced for The News on Sunday (1994-95). Tkfr.com chronicles some of her work – editing, writing, reporting and print and online media management. (1994-to date).

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  1. More reading?

    Why Do People Stay in Dead-End Jobs?
    admin June 4, 2007 10:12 am Career Advice

    So you’ve been working at the same job for awhile. You haven’t been promoted or transferred. You’re doing the same thing you did when you started. You haven’t gotten a raise despite several favorable reviews. Worst of all, you can tell work is getting to you. You’re more anxious somehow. Maybe you’re even developing a bit of a temper. Basically, you’re in a dead-end job.

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    http://www.classesandcareers.com/education/2007/06/04/why-do-people-stay-in-dead-end-jobs/

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  2. Top Ten Ways to Spot a Dead-End Job
    By Jessica Stillman | September 15, 2009

    Yesterday’s post on how to get a raise in a recession ended with a little tough love from modite’s Rebecca Thorman: if you’re in a dead-end job with no hope of promotion, start polishing your resume. It’s bracing advice but sensible, but there’s one small problem. When you’re interviewing for a new position, it’s not always easy to tell a job that is going somewhere from a job that’s going exactly nowhere, especially when you’re relatively inexperienced. So how can you tell whether the gig you’re up for is going to be any better than the stagnant one you left behind?

    http://www.bnet.com/blog/entry-level/top-ten-ways-to-spot-a-dead-end-job/614

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  3. Am I in a Dead End Job?
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    http://www.wisegeek.com/am-i-in-a-dead-end-job.htm

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  4. 10 Dead-End Jobs
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    http://www.experience.com/alumnus/article?channel_id=offbeat_path&source_page=home&article_id=article_1156446477449

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  5. Are You In a Dead End Job?
    Written by Matt Jabs – 11 Comments

    How can you tell if you’re working in a dead end job? Wikipedia defines a dead end job as:

    “a job in which there is little or no chance of progressing and succeeding into a higher paid position. Such work is usually unskilled and the phrase usually applies to those working as shelf stackers, cleaners, or other menial jobs where the pay is low, and the hours are long.”

    What do you think? I think that they touched on part of it, but I also think there’s more to it than that. Let’s talk about the different ways to tell whether or not you are in a dead end job.

    http://www.fivecentnickel.com/2010/04/01/are-you-in-a-dead-end-job/

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    Success has a trap: sometimes the strategies, actions, or style that makes you successful stop working.

    You continue to rely on what you did in the past because you have evidence that it did work once, even many times – gee, maybe you just aren’t trying hard enough.

    http://www.cnbc.com/id/43237219/

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